Helping A Victim

There is not any "one way" or "correct way" for a victim to react after being sexually assaulted. A victim's demeanor can vary as they may cry, or be angry, laugh or giggle, or remain stoic and still be numb from the assault.

You can help a victim by:

• Make sure they are safe.
• Help them regain the feeling of control - they need to be able to make decision and be in control.
• Be an open listener – do not judge, accept their version of the facts and be supportive.
• Let them know the assault was not their fault.
• Reassure them they are loved and cared about and be patient with them.
• Encourage them to seek medical attention.
• Encourage them to talk about the assault with an advocate, mental health professional or someone they trust.
• Let them know they do not have to go through this crisis alone – ask if they would like someone to stay with them through the night. This is not the time for them to be alone.
• Put aside your feelings, and deal with them somewhere else. Although it may be supportive for a victim to know you are equally upset, they DO NOT need to have to deal with your feelings of anger and rage in addition to their own.

RAINN's Guide for Helping Someone

RAINN's Guidelines for Survivor Self-Care